There are legitimate reasons to be scared about having some conversations. Let’s be honest - some people do not react well when confronted, regardless of how eloquent and thoughtful you are. Sometimes, certain discussions are not career-enhancing, depending on your colleagues and boss. This is reality.
However, what is also reality is that the cost of not having the conversation is much greater than the risk of it going badly. These needed conversations weigh you down. You know this. Science tells you this.
So, here are two tips to overcome the scary nature of some exchanges:
- Prepare accordingly. Whether it is a feedback or confrontation conversation, preparation is key for having the conversation align with your intention. Here at Fierce we teach the preparation piece for various conversations, and oftentimes, people tell us that it is our magic. The goal is to make your conversations authentic and drive the results you want. So, prepare by scanning some of the tips from this blog. Set aside some unadulterated time to focus and think through the conversation. Take some notes.
- Practice with someone. Many conversations do not go the way we want them to, because we are not clear and direct. Once you have done some preparation, find a friend or partner to practice with. Ask the person how they felt with your delivery. Ask for feedback. It is not necessary to do a role play situation, but rather, use the practice time as an opportunity to make sure you are not laying blame or using inflammatory language that could trigger just about anyone.
These tips are not new. They serve as a reminder, though. And ultimately, you are the one that must make the choice to have the conversation.
And for your own sake, I really hope you do. You have more to gain than you can imagine.
Do you have any tips for our audience about dealing with fear around conversations?