This week’s Fierce resource was originally published by Forbes.com and provides six ways to conquer fear of confrontation.
Whether we like to admit or not, most of us are guilty of avoiding a conversation that we know will be difficult. Excuses enter our heads, like “not wanting to rock the boat,” and we convince ourselves that things will eventually change. Wrong.
Whether it is a work conflict or a relationship issue, you owe it to yourself (and the other person) to have the difficult conversation to move the relationship forward.
Amy Morin, psychotherapist and Forbes contributor, shares some effective ways of overcoming a fear of confrontation:
- Identify the problems with being a pushover. It is difficult for someone to change behavior if they do not see how it is negatively affecting them. Writing down all the problems you experience by avoiding confrontation can help you understand the impact it has on your life.
- Reconsider the assumptions you make about confrontation. Most fears about confrontation stem from incorrect assumptions. Thinking that a confrontation conversation will ruin a relationship or make things painfully awkward only fuels more fear. The relationship will most likely be enhanced by having the conversation in the end.
- Address one small issue at a time. If you have been avoiding several issues with a colleague or friend, identify a minor issue to start the conversation. More than likely, it will go well and you will have confidence to address the meatier issues down the road.
To discover the rest of the tips, read the entire article.