While thinking about this blog, I turned to the best source for advice to young girls – other young girls who are happy and thriving - so I asked my granddaughters and the daughters of one of our leaders here at Fierce what advice they would give a freshman girl in high school.
Clara, 15: “Do not judge someone until you know them well enough, talk to as many people as possible, wear things that make you love your body and make you feel beautiful, attend as many sports games as you can, join clubs or sports, go to homecoming because there are only 4 in your life! Don’t be afraid to ask your teachers questions if you are confused, be nice to everyone.”
Maizy, 17: “Be nice. To everyone. People aren’t as scary as you imagine and making someone’s day is so worth it. I would agree with Clara on joining sports/clubs. It’s a great way to make new friends, immerse yourself in something that keeps you grounded throughout high school, and to meet upper classmen who can answer questions and help mentor/guide you. Do your homework and respect your teachers! As a senior, you’ll have to ask for teacher recommendation letters for college applications and it’s a lot easier if you have a bunch of teachers who like you to choose from ;). Cheesy, but be yourself and love it. Experiment – find things you like, things you don’t, find yourself. And don’t worry if you aren’t totally sure of yourself your first year of high school. I’m a senior and just now beginning to be comfortable with myself/figure myself out! But there will always be someone who will appreciate you for you; I don’t know anyone at my high school who doesn’t have friends.”
Teagan, 17 & Kira, 14: “Trust your instincts about people and situations. If you feel good in your friends’ company, it most likely means they treat you well. If you feel uncomfortable or bad when you interact with your friends, it is most likely not you, but them. Hang out with people who treat you well. Get help when you need it. Don't be afraid to ask adults for help. Your counselors at school are there to support you! Don't be afraid to be weird. Hang out with people who get you and appreciate your weirdness. Don't do something you don't want to do just because someone else thinks it's a good idea or will be fun. Don't let someone pressure you. Find something you love to do and pour your heart into it. You don't have to have it all figured out. The journey lasts a lifetime. Enjoy it!
I will add: Navigate your life one conversation at a time. You already are, whether you realize it or not. Your time in school, your eventual career, your relationships and your life will succeed or fail, gradually then suddenly, one conversation at a time.