By Aimee Windmiller-Wood
Oh fine. I'll admit it. I like eavesdropping on stranger's conversations. I've even gone so far as to shush my kids at a restaurant so I could hear the end of someone's conversation at the table next to ours. And I know I'm not the only one. Come on really. Why do we have so many reality shows on TV? Not all of them are about eating bugs. We love looking in on other people's lives, seeing how they operate - maybe even learning from their mistakes.
I've learned a lot by listening in and confirmed what most of us already know:
- Many people hate having real conversations with the people that are driving them crazy in their lives.
- Loads of people make up a whole bunch of stuff about others without ever checking to see if they are right.
- There are people who make lots of money because of the first two points: therapists, lawyers, news media, talk shows and yes even training companies – just to name a few.
I've learned a lot more than that of course. I've learned that people can love deeply and love long. I've learned that the human heart has an amazing capacity to heal, even when it has been profoundly broken. I have learned that the slightest comment can cut like a knife. And that the people whom we supposedly love the deepest, are often the ones we speak to with the most disrespect. I have learned that the human spirit is amazingly resilient.
What have you learned from listening in? What would it take for you to have the real conversations, the Fierce Conversations, with those people who drive you crazy? Have you ever made stuff up about someone, only to find out you were totally wrong?
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