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Seek to Understand

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I like to think of myself as someone who embraces curiosity rather than pushing my advice or taking things at face-value. When I entered into the challenge this week, I thought this would be a very natural place for me to be.

What I didn’t foresee was a week where I was in heavy production mode, faced with a looming deadline on a big project.

As I reflect on this week, I realize I misplaced my curious explorer hat and instead focused on checking off a box on a list in order to move this project into completion. Sure, I asked questions of the team as it related to the final details of the project and gained clarity on why certain items were such.

However, the level of curiosity related to the challenge this week – truly seeking to understand - is different.

So this begs the question: how can I maintain being curious even when I am carrying a heavy load?

For example, in a recent meeting with a business partner related to this project, the team was having a hard time understanding where the breakdown in the delivery timeline was happening.

We immediately went to solution mode and started suggesting alternative options to ensure the task got completed. Had we gotten curious and asked more questions to gain clarity about the situation, we could have avoided the rabbit trail we went down.

In the end, it was miscommunication, and he had the solution the whole time.

For me, the challenge really is about self-discovery and being fully present. When someone is asking my opinion or strongly expressing theirs, I want to be in a place where I genuinely can pause, give my full attention, and ask, ask, ask. The goal is to have both of us gain insight and learn from one another – even if it’s a brief exchange.

So this week, when I take the poll to report in on how I did, I will select the "meh" box. And fortunately, this is a continuous learning journey I am on. I have plenty of opportunities to don my curious explorer hat and seek to understand.

When you reflect back on this week, how well did you do?

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